Mistakes

The feeling of guilt is arguably the worst feeling a person can deal with.  It is haunting.  It is stressful and frankly makes one not really care about the outcome of well... anything.  Guilt is usually caused by a mistake that is made in the past where the recipient feels responsible for the effect.  We can take responsibility for things and add more guilt knowing that we made the mistake.



That person also tries to make sense out of it by conjuring up excuses.  This helps to relieve some of the 'sickness' felt and it is often the only thing a person can depend on.  It is a way to move on.  "What is done is done," "it wasn't meant to be," or the infamous, "it was the right thing to do."  These are all aphorisms that help people deal with the mistakes they made.  Often, people deny they made a mistake, especially to others.  All the while they suffer inside knowing that the guilt was really brought upon by their own selfishness, pride, stupidity, etc. 



The question is then, how does a person justify the decision?  In other words, to proclaim: it wasn't a mistake at all.  Can we all just throw out our moral responsibility?  Were things really determined to end up in such a way?  The answer is not easy and neither is the time it takes to get past the past, and make the future bright.  There is a solution.  Unfortunately, it is one that no one wants to accept.  Nobody wants to be reproached, but nevertheless, sometimes there is no other way.  Our authenticity in a strange way depends upon our pride.  However, we must be careful with each situation that presents itself.  They are all very similar but just different enough so that we can learn.



That being said, we learn from our mistakes--at least we are supposed to in hopes to gain an understanding.  All things and events come with the ability to learn.  So take responsibility for your actions.  If you choose to live a certain way, make sure it is on your terms because if it isn't you will be enveloped with hatred and jealousy and carved up by envy.  Remember, a mistake is only a mistake if one denies that they made one.